Solving My People Puzzle: Part 2 Instructions

This learning activity (i.e., Parts 1 and 2) will provide resources for describing, developing, and managing your personality (i.e., relational style: thinking; doing, feeling; and relating to others) against the backdrop of various people puzzles (e.g., extrovert/introvert; project/people oriented; thinking/feeling/doing, etc.). Interestingly, our interpersonal arena could be described as a bumper-human world as various behavioral pressures continually bless, bother, and bruise us. Understanding that “personality pressure” is a felt experience that often reveals what makes us tick and get ticked off with different people empowers us to become personality-, emotionally-, and relationally-wise. It comes as no surprise to realize that how we think, feel, and relate differently will influence our relationships, even the people-helping relationship. Keep in mind that it really does not matter what your personality is. What matters most is that you learn to control it through appropriate resources and best fit strategies rather than allowing your personality to be in control.

Overview of Part 2:

(Solving My People Puzzle: Part 2 is due by 11:59 p.m. (ET) on Sunday of Module/Week 3.)

The following outline identifies essential components of the SMPP Part 2: Developing and Managing My Relational Style Report.

Template Components of Part 2: Developing and Managing My Relational Style Report

SMPP Part 2 Instructions:

In Part 2 of Solving My People Puzzle, the student will describe best fit strategies for the development and management of relational styles. Directions are provided below.

A short, free M-BTI assessment (Jung Personality Test) may be taken through the following link:

Ignore initial prompt for age description; only give attention to questions under this heading:

INTJ type description by D.Keirsey
INTJ Career Choices by Jung Career Indicator™
INTJ type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:

After the “HumanMetrics” is completed, compare your DISC profile with the MBTI through the following web site:

Concisely answer the following questions in your Part 2 template. Support (i.e., cite) your answers by remaining closely connected to the readings and assessment information according to APA Guidelines (e.g., in-text citations and References).

SMPP Part 2 Questions:

  1. How will you demonstrate fit with each of the primary DISC styles (i.e., D-I-S-C)?

Your answer will inform the process of “Becoming the Me I Want to Be” in various relational contexts.


TIP: Before responding to question 1, use the following links to increase your ability to respond rather than react to the 4 styles; cite accordingly:

  1. How will you communicate and connect with a predetermined care-seeker from the case study?

Your answer will inform the process of relational alignment in this course’s counseling scenario.


  1. How will you communicate and connect with your mentor?

Your answer will inform an initial mentorship as well as positively influence future mentor/mentee relationships.


SMPP Part 1 Instructions

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SMPP Part One Questions

  1. Who is the “Me I See”?

Before attempting to answer this question, take a few moments and view the following links to gain an overall understanding of the DISC:

To learn more about how your behavioral pressure is influenced by priorities, reflect on How My Graph Became a Dot:

Concisely describe the “Me I See” in DISC Graph 2 (i.e., This is Me). This description should identify your primary DISC style and delineate a basic overview. Use Carbonell’s (2008) How to Solve the People Puzzle to include insights about strengths (evidence of maturation) and shortcomings (evidence of lacking maturation). Examine all chapters related to your primary DISC index, especially the Case Studies.

Further insight may be gained by entering your High Factor dot plots in the following DISC profile interpretation link and click Interpret:

Finally, your description of the Me I See must integrate insights about your interpersonal patterns (i.e., helpful and harmful) from the 360s and Petersen’s (2007) Why Don’t We Listen Better? (e.g., flat-brain tango tendencies; communication insights, traps, techniques, etc). Make sure the description of the Me I See is a description without judgment or critique. Simply seek to understand rather than fix.

  1. What Hallmark Purpose (** see HMP Tip) will govern your personality (i.e., relational style)?
  2. Identify a crisp hallmark purpose (i.e., 1 concise sentence). For example, “This student wants to be an imitator of Christ.”
  3. Concisely describe the purpose guiding the development and management of your relational style. For example, “To be an imitator of Christ, this student must purpose to possess his soul (i.e., entire person) through a process of training-in new life-style patterns (i.e., attitudes, actions, emotions, communicating and connecting style) that help those on the other side of ‘me’ to remember the Jesus in ‘me.’”
  4. Provide a truth-based rationale for choosing this hallmark purpose (i.e., ground the rationale in the readings and Scripture through appropriate citation; no more than 3 sentences). For example, “According to Kollar (2011), this student’s relational style cannot be developed and managed until he aligns his thinking with God’s intention (p. 49). According to Inspiration, it is God’s intention that this believer make every effort (i.e., exercise and develop; 2 Peter 1: 5, 10, 15) to imitate God as Christ demonstrated (i.e., be imitators; Eph. 5:1) so that those on the other side of ‘me’ are influenced toward Christ (i.e., Paul inspired others to imitation; 1 Cor. 11:1).”

**HMP Tip: How to Construct your Hallmark Purpose

A hallmark purpose is a governing influence that helps people on the other side of “Me,” see and remember Jesus in “Me.” It is a distinguishing mark that gives a life its stamp of authenticity. For example, “This believer is committed to being an imitator of Christ (i.e., imitate God as Christ did; Eph. 5: 1,2) and through a lifestyle of imitation, aspires to influence others toward Christ and subsequent imitation (i.e., illustrate Christ; 1 Cor. 11:1).”

Our Lord’s hallmark purpose in life was to be the ultimate glorifier of His Father by seeking, serving, and saving the lost (e.g., Inspiration Considerations: Mark 10:45; Lk. 19:10; Jn. 17:4). His discussion of doing in Scripture often moved from “being-ness” to “doing-ness” (e.g., …whoever wants to be (i.e., do great)…must be (i.e., a servant)…” Mark 10:35–45).

  1. Who is the “Me I want to See?” (Reflect on what you have gleaned from Q1 and Q2.)
    • Develop a crisp picture of the “Me I want to See” (e.g., “As an imitator of Christ, this man wants to be a considerate husband”).
    • Explain how the hallmark purpose’s governing influence assists in the development of the picture of the “Me I Want to See.” Develop the picture without any action plan discussion as it belongs in Solving My People Puzzle Part 2 (i.e., this is not about fixing a problem but picturing its absence).

Against the backdrop of the example above (see “e.g.,”), a former PACOneer stated: “The governing influence of this writer’s hallmark purpose helped to check his high CS behavioral pressure (Carbonell, 2008, p. 303). In reality, his ‘DSc’ wife has proven many times over that she can do a project correctly; yet, like a malfunctioning automaton, this husband has a tendency to ask if she did this or did that. This lover of her soul does not mean to be insulting or intimate that he does not trust her to do a job well, but she perceives it that way. Bottom line, the wife views this behavior as being inconsiderate.”

Thankfully, the student’s hallmark purpose became a mid-wife to a micro-purpose and set the stage for him to become a considerate husband. Under the influence of this purpose, the Spirit used Inspiration (i.e., noticeable sweet reasonableness; Phil. 4: 5) to remind the husband that God intends for him to relax, flex, and allow a completed project to be enjoyed rather than inspected. The pursuit of the imitation of Christ, developed a picture that was in sharp contrast to his former thera-noxious (Petersen, 2007, p. 212) CS pattern.


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